But HOW??

We don’t start with focusing on having more and better sex. 

We start with repairing, healing and nurturing the things that have happened that caused unnecessary emotional suffering and pain. 

Because a great sex life is the fruit of a mature and intimately connected couple, we take a look at the core underlying issues that are making intimacy an issue in the marriage. We aren't going to be using sex as a way to fix the intimacy struggles between the two of you. What we do is fix the intimacy struggles and then sex becomes a way to celebrate the relationship that you are proud of!

This means that less sex may be happening at first. Many husbands are unsure about this and have a sort of freak out moment because they have been dealing with a lot of rejection and are often fearful that they will now have to deal with more rejection and they are unsure that their sex lives will actually improve with this method. It’s also normal for some wives to have a little bit of anxiety about not focusing on having more sex as well because they don’t like the negative consequences of dealing with husbands who disengage when they think they aren’t having enough sex.

But this has proven to be the only method that has actually worked in the big picture-and what we are going for here is a deeply intimate amazingly satisfying sex life that is free of pain, confusion and frustration. iIn order to achieve this in the big picture there has to be a repair stage.

We have to slow down the whole process in order to speed up the results of ditching low desire and enjoying an amazing sex life. But I equip you with the right tools and skills needed so that while you are repairing, your anxieties can lessen as well and you’ll experience a lot of hope and start seeing changes very soon.

Course Topics:

-Address the trauma symptoms and prioritize the wives nurturing and healing of her mind, body, and soul. 

-Create safety to be honest with each other

-Bring attention to the way each of you are being in the relationship (in and out of the bedroom) and learn how to mature your relationship behaviors so intimacy and good sex for both are naturally the fruit of being in a deeply connected relationship. 

-Create authority, autonomy, and agency in the woman’s sexuality.

-Get to know her sexual self, embrace her sexuality, come to peace with her sexuality being a foundational part of her. 

-Stop the embarrassment or shame around her sexuality and learn more about her anatomy and how her mind, heart, and body work together to make sex good fun and easy and something to look forward to. 

-Create more and more positive sexual experiences.

-Learn about the different kinds of orgasms and pleasures you can experience. Learn what is sexually possible for every woman and couple. 

-Learn how to advocate for more intimacy (not more sex) and how this creates more sex that is satisfying and a non issue in the marriage. 

FAQs about the Your Turned on Desire Program:

Does everyone get results?

Results are dependent on you doing the work that is provided in this program. You do not have to be perfect, you only have to be willing to devote a couple hours each week to listening to or watching the material, doing the assignments, evolving with each lesson, asking questions and receiving the support that is provided. Anyone who is willing to do these things will experience a new peaceful, happy, stress free sex life with their spouse. The skills learned in the courses are not always easy at first but with a willingness to try,  they do become easy, joyful and a natural way of being. A good sex life that is a nonissue is a lasting reward of being committed to the work of developing intimacy skills.

What is your refund policy?

I believe that everyone who has access to this content is ready to change their life and is ready to make sex a nonissue in their marriage. All my client’s experience major shifts and long lasting improvements and want to keep learning and will not want a refund. I understand that knowing a refund is available can make the choice to enroll easier for a lot of humans, if you enroll in the course and take a look at the lessons that are available and decide that doing the work to enjoy an amazing sex life isn’t for you, then yes, you can have a refund within 48 hours. Just email [email protected] for your refund to be processed. But I don’t believe anyone is going to want to miss out on the amazing content and opportunities that are going to be happening while being enrolled in this program. Once enrolled, you have all of the lessons, future lessons, calls and access to call replays as long as you are subscribed to the program!

Is this program only for females?

This program is intended for females. There are lessons for the husbands of the females who are enrolled in the program and the husbands do have access to schedule private calls if desired, but the online program is made specifically for females who are struggling with low desire in their marriages to men.

Does this program need to be done as a couple?

No. Women experience success as they go through each lesson and learn about themselves. As each individual woman makes the changes that are offered in these lessons and calls, their partners are inspired to change as well. It really only takes one individual making changes to inspire change for the couple. We can't make our spouses change. All we can do is change the way we are being in the relationship. When we change our behaviors, this changes the patterns in the relationship. When the patterns are changed, then the spouse has to change their behaviors as well. People tell me all the time that as they started making the changes I offer them, that their relationship improves and eventually their spouse is inspired and wants to learn more. Change is especially inspired and sped up when these skills and concepts are applied individually without blame or pressure being placed on the other spouse to change. I find doing this work in your own way relieves a lot of the negative pressure that keeps couples from changing patterns. Many people make faster progress when they are given the freedom to work at their own pace and in their own way. It’s called differentiation and I teach a lot about this mature way of being in a marriage. Differentiation is a wonderfully mature relationship skill to develop in a long term relationship & creates a peaceful, magnificent sex life. 

I’m super busy. What if I don’t have time for all of the lessons now?

Once enrolled you have access to the program material and future updates for a year. There’s no rush. You take your time and work at your own pace. You can come to the calls or watch the replays. You can participate in the community as much or as little as you desire. You can come back to each of the lessons anytime and as often as you need. Changes begin the moment you decide to enroll. As you listen to and read the content at your own pace, you'll experience shifts and you'll have actions to take that will create changes right away. If you would like to continue for a another year, you can enroll again and continue to participate in the future updates, calls and lessons. If you would prefer to pay month to month, then you have that option as well.

Will there be a payment plan?

Yes. I understand that many people may not be able to pay in full right now so there will be an option to make monthly payments. You may stop those monthly payments as you wish and come back as you are ready for more support!

I feel unsure if this program is right for me. How do I know I’m ready to enroll?

If you’re feeling drawn, led, inspired, called, or pulled to this program, I believed you should listen to this inner guidance. When you’re feeling this pull, that means there is something in this program that you are ready for now and you are ready for what you desire. Once you get what you need from this program, you are free to leave the program and come back when you are ready for more.

When will the live calls be?

The live calls are held twice a week. typically on Tuesday afternoons or evening and another on Thursday mornings (to prepare you for the weekend ahead). You will get the call schedule when you enroll in the course as I email the call schedules for the week ahead and post the schedules in the private slack group. The replays will be available for everyone to watch/listen to within 24 hours of the call. Once enrolled in this program you have access to all of the calls and replays so you can move at your own pace.

Real People. Real Results:

Read screen shots of the women’s messages and texts to Jamee personally and to the program community.

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